Respect = Love

If you are a female that title may not make sense. It seems to men that it is perfectly rational though. Mars and Venus are showing their differences once again.

That little respect word means so much to men. Our men crave it and when they don’t get it they often erupt in anger.

I recently saw this in action. The explosion after just a few simple words were said that apparently did not demonstrate a trust in his judgment.


Here are some ways to show respect to your guy.

Respect him in front of other people, especially other men.

Trust his decisions. You may not agree. If you don’t agree and it is a big deal then let him know (in private) you don’t totally agree but that you trust him in whatever he does decide to do.

Support him. Be proud of him and show it. One of men’s greatest needs is to know you believe in him. When a man knows you believe in him, he can do just about anything.

My husband loves the tv version of the movie, Jerry McGuire (tv version is edited without some foul language).  That movie is probably one of his top two movies. I didn’t really understand why until I dove into this today. It all makes perfect sense now. It is to men, what romantic chic flicks are to women.

We just recently watched it again. The female character played by Renee Zellwegger stands up when a Jerry McGuire has been fired and she says she will quit and go with him. It’s in a room full of employees and she stands up and shows him that she trust him and has faith in him. That movie has the respect and trust theme running all through it. The other male character played by Cuba Gooding Jr.  has a supporting woman behind him too.  He is a small football player that most have lost faith in, yet his wife hasn’t. That man has amazing confidence because of his wife’s support.

Stand up for your guy. Don’t forget your sons either! Those growing boys need that respect too.

One more way is to not remind them to do things. Ask him to fix the dishwasher one time and never mention it again. I had no idea that “reminding” my husband about something after I had mentioned it once was so terrible. I get distracted easily so I truly thought I was being helpful. My husband translated my reminders as nagging.

If he hasn’t done it then just trust that there is a reason.

My son is a little reminder of this as he has started letting me know when he feels I am nagging. That really annoyed me when he first used that word and then the light bulb came on. If my son feels nagged by me, then what is my husband feeling? My husband isn’t one to say “you’re being a nag”. I have to be very careful with what I say or just how I say it.

Sometimes, just learning when to say nothing is good.

There will be times when we fail at this. Just take it like a woman and own up to it. “I’m sorry, that was disrespectful of me”.  We want them to apologize when they hurt our feelings and they are the same way. Don’t make a big production of it and turn it into a counseling session though.

Don’t forget to make up! That is the best part after all.

Remember, wink, flirt and respect your guy!

Ephesians 5:33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

It is Biblical to respect your husband.

The great thing is that when we do this, they just soar!  Our respect is like giving them their “super power”. They beam, they shine, they succeed.

Try it, give him a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T!!

Lavender & Armour