Taming the Tongue

More than once in my life, my tongue has taken control over my will to say the right thing. The very minute I allowed my tongue to take over, I so regretted it.

James 3:7  All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

I have seen how people have trained all kinds of creatures.  Dogs that can dance, chicken that plays Tic-Tac-Toe, birds that can sing, dolphins that can retrieve rings on command from the bottom of a large pool and them jump in the air to give it to the trainer.

People have trained themselves to run marathons, sky dive, hold their breath underwater for up to 5 minutes, walk on hot coals, escape from locked chains.   The list goes on and on.

But NO ONE can tame the tongue.  Even James said so, “but no human being can tame the tongue.

It’s like a sword that can cut deep and wound to the point of bringing someone to their knees in tears.  Breaks hearts making people refuse to forgive.  Leaves scars on adults and children they carry the rest of their lives. Rip families and relationships apart.  It can even take control over your face.  Without saying a word, it will control your facial expressions.


The TONGUE, my tongue and your tongue, all are guilty.

So where’s the hope if no one can control the mighty tongue.  You probably can guess that answer pretty easy, it is in Jesus Christ.  When we are reborn, Spiritually reborn, you are given the ability to call on the power of the HOLY SPIRIT for wisdom and temperance.  But don’t believe for one minute that the tongue will even remember you are reborn. It still will have the power to control you if given the smallest of a chance.

As I was studying the book of James, I was wondering how could I effectively guard my tongue. How to have the upper hand on what it wants to say. Have the upper hand when it doesn’t speak and wants to take over my facial expressions.  Control, I wanted to know how to control this horrible need to speak to have the last word or give that look that kills.

Then there it was.  It’s as if James knew I was asking.  Just a few chapters down  James says  “it is not of God.”

James 3:14-16 But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but [is] earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking [exist], confusion and every evil thing [are] there.

Not once but twice, James speaks of envy and self-seeking.  Whatever you are saying, if you have envy or self-seeking behind those words….IT IS NOT OF GOD.  James even speaks of how demonic and evil these two are.  James speaks powerful in describing these.

In all situations, you should think before you let your tongue speak.  Ask yourself,  ” Is what I’m about to say based on envy? or am I being self-seeking right now?”

James goes on to tell us, how to tame our tongues.

James 3: 17-18 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. 

Ask yourself, is your tongue speaking purity, peacefulness, gentleness, goodness?  Does your face show any trace of partiality or hypocrisy?    You know the look.

Control – takes practice and slowing down and thinking before speaking.  No way is this saying you have to agree with what is being said. Just simply staying in faith and understanding Gods’ teachings and always speaking with kind, gentle words to make your point.

If only our tongues were made of glass, how much more careful would we be when we speak?

Lavender & Armour